It is interesting how I am asked about how to communicate with a person’s spouse/significant other. I love that I am asked, but it shows that it is fear that is stopping you from actually asking a question. Yes, your partner may say no to something. But, they may say “oh thank god, I have been wanting to do this too”, and it opens the floodgates. I say just do it. Get the question on the table and see what happens.