No humiliation – OR Humiliation but not about specific areas, topics
YES PLEASE…. INTERESTS
I have always wanted to try….OR this interests me
An easy way to figure this out is to think about what you have been fantasizing about.
Boots, look of the Domme.
When contacting a domme via email introduction, as well as a basic breakdown of what you are looking for is key.
What do you envision during your session?
Domestic service. (for a first session, if she allows you in her home, this could work. If you are in a hotel, it does not. A dungeon, it could work but now there is a public twist to it)
Commands: learning the submissive positions (would recommend this to be done when a regular session schedule has been agreed upon)
Nipple clamps, (sample the intensity) CBT, (rope, chastity, crop, slapping, squeezing, ballbusting, trampling, etc
Ass Play/Training: Must be at least a 2-hour session. Not accepted in dungeons, this crosses the line of prostitution as well.
Ass training is something that you would make sure that the domme has experience with. Asking how far she has gone, etc.
PUSHING BOUNDARIES vs ABUSE
Having a discussion with a domme regarding some things you would like to try.
ie: want to play strap-on games, ass training, sucking a strap-on for her. BUT…. what if she beings in a male and you are NOT INTO MEN, but cuckold is a boundary you wanted pushed?
Gloves, Baby Wipes, Alcohol wipes, towels, paramedic scissors for rope/restraints condoms on everything. Safe-word, safety tapout MOVEMENT if gagged.
How does she pack up her things when done with a session?
Separate the items used so she may go and wash/sterilize when she gets home